To heal, love.
Bring yourself to the places that make your heart soar. Remember that there is a spark inside that can feel joy- or at least relief- at any time.
When this feels hard, and it will, work small. Take a breath and relax your face. Sit up tall and soften your shoulders. Look at something beautiful, like this image, and see if you can focus fully on the beauty for just one breath, maybe two.
But perhaps, when it feels impossible, and it will, you need to try harder. Make a personal plan. Execute it. Even if it's as simple as making some food, cleaning a small space, or taking a walk.
And then do it again.
Any worthwhile endeavor requires effort. Be disciplined in your healing. Be aggressive with loving yourself, or loving the situation you are in. Be fierce in casting away negativity from outside forces. Be steadfast in cultivating positive feelings from the forces inside yourself.
We have the power to love our lives fully. We have the ability to nurture that place of lack, and to fan that spark that faded to a glimmer. We have the strength to create a fire that roars and burns up all our trash. But it takes a lot of tending. It takes a lot of effort. It takes a tireless spirit because we have to start over again and again. Sometimes a breeze comes that puts the fire out. Sometimes the same breeze grows the flame. We have to keep making these efforts and doing this work, because sometimes the tools we have aren't the right fit for the direction the wind is blowing.
You get what you deserve, you aren't given anything you aren't prepared to handle, karma is a bitch, and all of that. So let's be disciplined, tireless, joyful. Let's love our lives and love the journey and trust the process. Let's pay our karmic debts and stop trying to understand why. Forgive yourself and forgive others and move on. Choose your heart, choose your joy, every time.
I've been really lucky to have a lot of help in my healing process. So if you need any help, and you think I can provide it, please go to my contact page and send me a message. This life is too short and too long to try and do it all alone.
